September 2010

Mirror, Mirror On The Wall, Who Is The Grumpiest Of Them All?

Mirror, Mirror On The Wall

Have you ever noticed how it’s socially acceptable to compete with others for the grumpiest or most stressed out day award? We all know how the conversation runs:

“You wouldn’t believe what happened to me today…!”
“Oh that’s nothing! You should hear what happened to me!”
“No way! You guys have got it easy, compared to me!”

Yet how often do we compete to be awarded the trophy for happiest person?

Why is that?

Assuming you’re after the “Grumpiest Of Them All” Award, to help you make sure you win today, here are 10 sure-fire grumpiness strategies you could start using right now.

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Snakes and Ladders

Inspirational Messages

Life is like a never-ending game of snakes and ladders. Except that instead of rolling dice, our chosen responses to the world around us dictate whether we slide down the slippery snake to glumtown or scoot up the happy ladder. Like a rollercoaster, life has ups and downs and it’s up to us to choose how we react to them.

Only you can decide.

So which is it going to be? And how do you do it?

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Want To Be Miserable? Compare Yourself To Others!

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Think about it: why do we compare ourselves with others?

Maybe it’s because it’s what we were taught to do at school, if we grew up with tests and class rankings?

Maybe it’s something we learned at home, by being compared with siblings?

Maybe it’s something we learned at work, with competition for the best jobs and pay rises?

Whatever the reason, comparing ourselves with others only leads to unhappiness because there are only two possible results:

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Are You Trying Too Hard To Feel Happier?

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Whatever we’re doing in life, most of the time, we just want to feel happier. Whether it’s getting the bigger house, the better job or the perfect relationship, we want to feel happy.

Yet how many of us have fallen into the trap of trying, over and over again, to make something work?

Whether it’s a relationship, a project, a job interview or even assembling flat-pack furniture, we fall back on the old proverb:

“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try again.“

There are two problems here:

Going Slightly Mad
They say that doing the same thing over and over again, whilst expecting different results, is the one of the first signs of insanity.
For most of us, “try, try, try again” involves just that…
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“Trying” Gets Us Off The Hook
When we use the word “try” – either out loud or in our heads – we’re giving ourselves unconscious permission to fail.

Think about it:

“I’ll try to get that done by Tuesday.” Will it happen?

“I’ll try harder to get it right next time.” Will it be different?

What Not To Do

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Do You Need A Push To Get Moving?

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Today’s Daily Sunshine is all about how it’s easier to make changes once you’re already in motion – and how you can get started.

“It doesn’t take much movement at all – and already you’re moving.”

We all know that getting started on changing something, or a new project, can seem overwhelming.

Sometimes the barriers to getting started make the whole thing grow in its apparent difficulty and taking that first step can seem impossible.

Where to start?

But how much easier would it be, if you knew that it doesn’t really matter what that first step is?

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What Are They Keys To Freedom?

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In today’s Daily Sunshine we’re talking about fast tracks to unhappiness and the keys to freedom.

“Acceptance and forgiveness will always be the keys to freedom.”

Hanging on to old hurts, trying to change the unchangeable (should such a thing exist!) and trying to control the uncontrollable: these are fast tracks to unhappiness.

Daily Sunshine - Are you getting yours yet?

But that’s where we spend so much of our energy.

Is there a pain you could forgive? Something you could choose to release, without having to force an apology?

Is there something that’s causing you stress that you could choose to accept and work around, rather than control or change?

It’s amazing how quickly little things become big stresses.

By practising forgiving tiny offences, by practising accepting tiny irritations, by practising releasing control of small issues, we allow so much more flow and happiness into our lives.

And the more we practise, the easier the big stuff becomes, too.

Is there a tiny thing you could forgive, accept or release control of today?

Wishing you sunshine and laughter,

Namsate,

Clare

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