Are You Too Busy ‘Blaming The Lettuce’, To Sort Out Your Life?

Dancing In Your Soul Shoes

Ok – so I thought that one might get your attention!If you’re getting close to FINALLY having had enough of things not going right and being hard work, then you won’t want to miss today’s article. I’m sharing with you some Ancient Wisdom and a whole bunch of solutions. No lettuces were hurt in the production of this article. 😉

The lovely Andrea Lee reminded me of a story told Thích Nhất Hạnh today:

“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce.
Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce.Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument.
That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change”

Thích Nhất Hạnh

And it goes even deeper than that.

It’s not just about our relationships – the ‘blaming-the-lettuce-syndrome’ applies to EVERYTHING we create in our lives.

If we fall in love with a dream project, but it doesn’t go to plan, we blame the lettuce.

If our career falls apart or we don’t bag that dream promotion or amazing customer, we blame the lettuce.

If we feel exhausted or fed up or miserable or lost or stuck or confused or stressed or anxious, chances are we’re blaming the lettuce.

Whenever the warning signs come up that we’re blocking our Abundance – that we’re sabotaging our health, happiness, vitality, energy levels, relationships and success – we blame the lettuce.

We do whatever we can to avoid looking in the mirror and taking responsibility for the choices we have made – for the thoughts, words and actions that were ours and ours alone.

When life falls apart and Abundance flies out of the window, it’s much easier to blame the lettuce than to look in the mirror and do something about it.

In fact, we go further than that. We don’t just blame the lettuce, we use it as our excuse – our justification for why things didn’t work out the way we wanted.

But blaming the lettuce means you’re throwing away your personal power – you’re keeping yourself stuck, because the lettuce is never going to do anything to change things for you.
Because YOU and ONLY YOU hold the power to make the changes your Soul has been dreaming of. You can always CHOOSE to change you thoughts, your words and your actions.

And that can transform your experience of life.

And, what’s even more amazing, is that you don’t have to wait to take back control and make those changes, you can start with your very next breath. If you want to.

Let’s do it – right now!

Sit or stand comfortably, with your back fairly straight, your chin tucked gently under and your shoulders relaxed, your eyes softly closed.
Think of something that feels ‘stuck’ or ‘broken’ in your life (make it a 2-3 out of 10 for this round!)
Take a deep breath in through your nose and breathe out through your mouth with an ‘ahhh’ sound, as you let go of stress and tension. Do this 3 times.
Now let yourself rest for a few moments, simply observing the physical sensations of your breathing – and if your mind wanders, gently guide it back to watching your breath.
When you feel ready:
- as you breathe in, say to yourself, “I reclaim my power to choose.”
- as you breathe out, say to yourself, “I let go and trust my Inner Wisdom.”
- Keep doing this for the next few minutes, allowing yourself to feel grounded – and perhaps noticing the sense of relief as you let go of trying so hard and you stand in your Soul’s power.
Now, when you feel that process has created a shift, with each in-breath and each out-breath, say to yourself, “I AM ABUNDANT!” Keep going for at least 10 breaths, allowing “I am Abundant!” to effortlessly permeate every cell in your body.
When you feel ready, gently release the practice, dedicating its power to someone or somewhere who needs that energy – because sharing the energy helps it to grow.
Open your eyes, have a good stretch and notice what has shifted for you.

So how did you get on? What did you notice? Perhaps you’d like to tell me, via the comments?
Which areas of your life are screaming at you (however silently!) to stop blocking your Abundance, to stop blaming the lettuce?

It would be an honour to help you more on this, if your heart is calling you to dive in and make some changes.

Want to dive in more deeply? And deal with your Abundance blocks?

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Absolutely no worries if it’s not for you! But I’d be being unfair if I didn’t let you know and you missed out. 🙂

I hope today’s technique has helped you. If it has, please do share it with your friends via Facebook / Twitter etc. And thank you for taking the time to run through it. Your ‘future you’ is busy doing a happy dance right now!
See you soon!
With love, Namaste,

Soul-Sized Wednesdays ~ A little-known secret about your inner critic that still blows my mind

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Welcome!
In this week’s Soul-Sized Wednesday video I want to share with you a little-known secret about your inner critic that still blows my mind. And it could be the key to setting yourself free from its negative running commentary, once and for all.

This is a technique that I normally only share with one-to-one mentoring clients or Inner Circle Programme members, but it’s so important and life-changing, that I decided to turn it into a Soul-Sized Wednesday video today, to help you deal with that pesky ‘critic on the shoulder’.

Is it FINALLY time to deal with your inner critic?

I’m sharing an amazing practical strategy you can use right away, during the video.

And remember to answer the questions at the end, via the comments box! [Read more…] about Soul-Sized Wednesdays ~ A little-known secret about your inner critic that still blows my mind

Soul-Sized Wednesday – Are you making the #1 mistake that will stop your dreams from coming true?

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Welcome!
In this week’s Soul-Sized Wednesday video I want to help stop you from making the #1 mistake that will prevent you from ever living your dreams. Find out how to avoid it – and my favourite insider secret technique for what to do instead.

In fact, nearly everyone makes this mistake – just before they get what they were looking for, and it’s the biggest reason why people give up on their dreams.

Are you making the #1 mistake that will stop your dreams from coming true?

I’m sharing an amazing practical strategy you can use right away, during the video. It’s a life attitude that will help keep you on track and inspire you to keep going, wherever it is you are heading.

And remember to answer the questions at the end, via the comments box! [Read more…] about Soul-Sized Wednesday – Are you making the #1 mistake that will stop your dreams from coming true?

Are You Giving Away Your Happiness?

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In yesterday’s post (How To Live The Life Of Your Dreams), I mentioned that the first step is surprisingly simple – decide who you want to be. Yet it’s also deceptively complex.

How many of us know who we actually are, let alone who we want to be?

Any why does it matter, anyway?

Well, living the life of our dreams isn’t about “stuff”, though stuff (material things) may be part of the package.

It’s about an attitude, a mindset, a way of being.

It’s about getting back into the “here and now”, to truly appreciate what we already have and anticipate where we are going. It’s not about living in the past or dreaming of a future where we will finally give ourselves permission to be happy.

Living the life of your dreams is about allowing yourself to feel happy, whatever is going on around you.

For most of us, that can feel like a massive leap, so let’s take this slowly.

How often have we told ourselves:

I’ll be happy, when…

… I get that promotion / my boss leaves / this project is finished.

… we have paid off the mortgage / car loan.

… the kids stop whining / my partner does what I’m asking.

… I get those new shoes / that faster car / the smartphone.

… I lose 10 lb /look more like that supermodel.

Why are we giving away our right to be happy right here, right now?

All our power is being held by some future event, over which we may or may not have any influence. That puts us straight in the position of powerless victim, which is a tough place to be, if you want to feel happy.

Why do we give away control over our happiness to other people or external circumstances?

Because it’s a habit. That’s all.

And habits can be changed.

Even the strongest addiction can be released. Not convinced? Check out the article: “How Long Does It Take To Break A Habit?”

It’s almost impossible to feel happy, if we’re spending all our time mulling over regrets about the past or preoccupying ourselves with worries about possible futures.

Incidentally, Esther Hicks defines worrying as: “creating a future you don’t really want” – so true!

How can we start to release that old habit, of giving away our happiness?

Here are three things you could do now to reclaim your happiness:

Get out of the drama
Most of our unhappiness is caused by the drama with which we surround the events of our life. We’re experts at projecting the story, rather than opening our eyes to the truth.
If you’re thinking about something and it’s making you irritated, you could stop for a moment and ask yourself this questions:
“What’s the simplest Truth in all this?”
Answer that question honestly and you’ll be racing back up towards a more neutral emotion, from which it’s easier to move on to step two…

What am I enjoying, right now?
This question does two things:

It brings you back to the present moment, back from stressing about the past or worrying about the future.

It helps shift your awareness from what’s wrong for you to what’s going well for you. Fast-track to feeling happier.

Get yourself a happiness-theft radar!
Train yourself – moment by moment – to spot when you’re giving away your happiness – when you’re allowing someone or something else to decide when you can be happy.
It doesn’t take long to get really good at this.
Of course, you can still choose to allow it to happen; to give away your happiness. But then at least it’s your choice, rather than an unconscious script you were running on auto-pilot!

Is it time to reclaim your right to feel happy?

These three steps are an excellent start to getting back in the driving seat of your happiness, which is the very early stage of Living The Life Of Your Dreams.

Are you ready to move towards living the life of your dreams?

If you’d like to come with us on this journey, make sure you’re getting the updates, every time we write a new article (Living The Life Of Your Dreams RSS feed) or join us in our Living The Life Of Your Dreams Facebook group, for moral support and some fun!

Can’t wait to have you join us!

With love,
Clare

How To Live The Life Of Your Dreams?

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Ever wondered how to go about living the life of your dreams?
Or maybe you think it’s not even possible?
Well, I’m wondering if you’d like to know a little secret that could move you closer to living the life of your dreams?

A lovely friend of mine, Joan Klink, has a saying:

Don’t dream your life; live your dreams.

And I reckon it sums up pretty accurately where most of us spend our time.

Was following your dreams too dangerous?

When we’re young, we can put a lot of energy into our dreams. But if they don’t turn out quite the way we had hoped, we quickly get demoralised.

Then, as we “mature”, we teach ourselves that it’s easier just to get on with life, rather than “wasting our time” with frivolous things like dreams. We’re scared that living our dreams will be “difficult” or get in the way of our “real life”. So we give up on them.

So we reach our last breath with more regrets about the things we didn’t do, than about the things we did do.

Is that how you want it to be?

Or are you ready to take the first step towards living the life of your dreams, right now?

Are you willing to take the first step on the journey towards living your dreams?

Want to know the secret of how to get started?

The first step towards living the life of your dreams is…. drum roll… surprising simple:

Decide who you want to be.

Living the life of your dreams isn’t about “stuff” – though an expensive car and beautiful home might be part of it. It’s about being who you truly are.

If you live a dream that forces you to be someone who you’re not, then you won’t be happy.

That’s not just a promise. It’s a guarantee.

Living the life of your dreams is about becoming who you really are – deep down inside. Then you can make the subtle changes in outside world to reflect this. That’s where the “stuff” comes in.

But unless you get your “inside” sorted first, the “stuff” won’t bring you any joy.

Are you ready to live the life of your dreams?

So are you ready to get started? I mean, are you really ready? Ready to put in the time, practice and commitment it takes to release the conditioning of the years and move towards your true happiness and sunshine, fulfilling your dreams?

Want to come on this journey with me? I’m here to guide you along the way. Over the coming months, I’ll be bringing you a route-map that can take you, step-by-step, through how to live the life of your dreams. Interested?

If you’re up for it, then make sure you’re getting reminders each time a new “Living The Life Of Your Dreams” article is posted.

You can do that via:

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or by bookmarking this Living The Life Of Your Dreams tag and popping back regularly.

I look forward to travelling with you, as you move towards the life of your dreams.

With love,

Clare

3 Great Ways To Let Your Past Ruin Your Future!

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Letting our past get in the way of our future is something we’re pretty good at doing, even though we might not realise it.
Our past has this great way of keeping us stuck, limited and miserable.
It’s all too easy to let our past sabbotage our present – and our future.
Now, I’m sure that’s not a pattern you’d want to be running… But just in case, here’s how I used to do it!
Here are 3 great traps we can all fall into…

Trap 1: I can’t do it!
This is a great belief that our past creates for us. Usually we use evidence of past failed attempts to support this one. So, if something goes wrong, we pick up the conviction that we can’t and won’t ever be able to get a different result.

Whether you think you, or you think you can’t, you’re right. ~ Henry Ford

The problem with this trap is that it’s based on the assumption that things never change – we don’t change, our environment doesn’t change, the circumstances never change. But that’s simply not true.

What’s the alternative?
Question it! Ask yourself: “What could I do instead / do differently to get the result I want?” Is it really true that you can’t do it? Or are you just scared? Are there some skills you might benefit from developing? Would a coach or mentor help you break through your blocks? As my slightly potty but strangely wise great aunt used to say, “There’s no such thing as can’t.”

Trap 2: I can’t help it!
This one is often followed by the lament of “That’s who / how I am!”…
It’s a great way of staying stuck in a situation that you don’t really want.
It’s about playing the victim – you’re not in control. You can’t influence. You don’t have any say in the matter. You’re certainly not responsible for any of it…

What’s the alternative?
Do you really want things to stay the way they are? Or is it possible you could find even just a tiny aspect of the situation that you could change? There’s got to be something you can influence – even if it’s just your response? No one’s saying it’s easy, but it’s got to be better than staying stuck where you don’t want to be, hasn’t it?

Trap 3: But I have to / should / ought to…
This is usually from childhood conditioning. My four-year-old often says to me “But I want to do what I want to do!” When we’re young, we know what that is and we do our best to do it!

But as we “grow up”, we learn what is expected of us and place more importance on that than on our own desires, to some extent sacrificing our own free will.

This builds up resentment and guilt, which is a great way of limiting our potential. We can easily end up feeling miserable and even bitter.

What’s The Alternative?
It’s the difference between feeling obligated and feeling free.
The secret is that we might not be able to choose what has to be done, but we can always choose how we feel about it.
Here’s a quick fix:

Ask yourself: is it really a thing you need to do?
If no, then consider not doing it!
If yes, then choose to do it.

Change your mantra.
Instead of “I have to…” “I must…” “I ought to…” “I should…”
Play with “I want to…” “I choose to…” “I would like to…”
And notice how much better you feel.

Are you ready to let go of the past and get on with living in the here and now?

manifesting

When life falls apart and Abundance flies out of the window, it’s much easier to blame the lettuce than to look in the mirror and do something about it.

And that can transform your experience of life.

Let’s do it – right now!

Want to dive in more deeply? And deal with your Abundance blocks?

Is it FINALLY time to deal with your inner critic?

Are you making the #1 mistake that will stop your dreams from coming true?