Do you ever find yourself walking around, running an inner commentary on what other people are doing or what they look like?
“What does he think he looks like in those trousers?!”
“Didn’t she get time to do her make-up this morning?”
“Duh, you got that one wrong again!”
You might even find yourself using a humorous voice to say these things to yourself and perhaps chuckling as you do it. It seems pretty harmless, after all, we’re not actually saying it out loud so the other person can hear, are we?
And we all do it, don’t we?!
It’s a fact of life: most of us are walking round passing judgement and commenting on the world around us.
Even reading newspaper or magazine that’s judging celebrities, for example, is giving our unconscious mind the message that you have to look or behave in a certain way, in order to be accepted.
Whether it’s commenting on someone else’s clothes or the state of the cafe where we grab a coffee, we’re passing judgement and it’s usually not pretty…
It’s partly a cultural thing and partly a product of our upbringing that gives us this habit. Young children are taught to compare themselves at school – and quickly learn that this way of judging is ‘how life is’.
So what’s the problem with this underlying commentary of little judgements and criticisms?