Who Is Really Running Your Show?

Clare Josa, Research & Training Director

I “accidentally” ended up on a live call with Wayne Dyer last night.

Actually, I don’t really believe in “coincidence” – I believe everything happens for a reason. But it did seem strange that it happened with such synchronicity.

I had just been through a challenging evening of high emotions and I was feeling in need of some inspiration to help me get back on track.

So a live call with Wayne seemed Heaven-sent.

Anyway, I listened for an hour, half-absent-mindedly, while I fiddled away with some graphics work in the background…  until he said one phrase that seemed to jump out of the airwaves and bosh me in the face like a wet salmon leaping out of a Scottish river:

It’s not about being better than anyone else.

It’s about being better than you used to be.

Wayne Dyer

It woke me up.

The “old me” would have wallowed in the drama for as long as she could stretch it out.

She would have made sure that she milked the hurt and pain for everything it was worth.

Wayne’s single phrase kicked me out of that auto-pilot pattern.

It enabled me to press the “pause” button – to catch my breath for a moment and choose whether that was a path I really wanted to go down.

Fortunately I chose to go down another path – one that was more peaceful and grounded.

And that’s the thing with our habitual responses – our “auto-pilot scripts”.

We don’t realise we’re running them until our casualties are lying around us and it’s nearly too late to change things.

The great thing is that we can always change direction.

Here are 3 simple steps you can take:

  1. Cultivate awareness of our auto-pilot scripts
  2. Detach from the drama – let go of whatever it is we’re “gaining” from the emotions and drama
  3. In each and every moment, be prepared to make other choices. Just because we’ve discovered we’re on a path we don’t really want, it doesn’t mean we have to keep walking it.

To allow this strategy to work, it’s essential to let go and forgive ourselves, if we feel we have made mistakes. Otherwise we’ll just keep making them – and that won’t make anyone happy…

So next time you spot yourself running an auto-pilot script that is no longer servingyour highest good (or that of those around you!), how about playing with those 3 steps?

And do remember to pop back here and share your comments and experiences!

Namaste,

Clare


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About the Author 

Clare Josa

Clare is considered a global authority in the fields of Imposter Syndrome, burnout and sustainable performance for individuals and teams. She has been an international keynote speaker for over 20 years.

Her research is cited in PhDs and taught on MBAs, worldwide, and she is the creator of the life-changing Safe to THRIVE™ and Natural Resilience Method® frameworks, which she teaches at Facilitator and Master Coach levels, as well as in the world's first Imposter Syndrome App - Imposter Syndrome Hacks™.

The author of ten books, a reformed engineer, and the former Head of Market Research for one of the world's most disruptive brands, she blends science-backed practical inspiration with demystified ancient wisdom, to help you create breakthroughs in ways that are fast, fun and forever.

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