How did you get on with your week 1 challenge? Did you manage to find time for your Gratitude Minute(s) most days? How did it make you feel? Can you feel it retuning your inner radar yet? Are you noticing your ‘gratitude muscles’ getting stronger? Here’s where we’re talking about week 1 – and it’s a great place to share your insights and get answers to your questions.
If you haven’t joined the private ‘Dancing In Your Soul-Shoes‘ group yet then after you’ve clicked the link you’ll need to click ‘join group’ and I’ll get you up and running asap.
Are you ready to move on to week 2?
This week we’re dealing with the absolute number one habit that you need to kick if you want to let abundance into your life – and move towards your dreams – and most of us don’t even notice that we’re doing it…
It is time to kick the complaining habit.
Yikes! Ouch! Run now! I can imagine some of the reactions that statement might provoke for you. It’s likely that your Monkey Mind is either yelling at me that it doesn’t complain – ever – or that it’s terrified that its favourite passtime is about to be abolished.
Either way, until you deal with your complaining habit (and we all have one – even if it’s just teeny), you won’t let in the abundance and life you have been dreaming of.
Because you get what you expect. The thoughts, words and actions you put out there grow to become your experience of life.
If you spend your time running a ‘complaining commentary’, then you are training your mind to spot (and even co-create) more things to complain about. Believe me, I have done this!
So those seemingly harmless conversations you run in your mind that gently whine about what someone did or what they said or how the government / your boss / your company / your partner / your kids / your neighbour did something unkind or unfair are tuning your body’s frequency to that of complaining and ‘bad things’ happening.
Your body feels what you mind is thinking.
So if you’re thinking ‘complaining-y’ stuff, you’ll feel the hormonal and chemical reactions in your body that go with that – you’ll feel stressed, tired and down – and your body will trigger the emotions that go with that, which will feed more complaining-type thoughts. It becomes a self-feeding cycle.
Are you ready to press ‘pause’ and turn things around?
Week 2 Challenge: How do you get off the ‘complaining train’?
Ok, so here’s the rub: I’m NOT suggesting you ‘Pollyanna’ your life and give up any form of negative thinking.
I’m inviting you in this week’s challenge to do two things:
- Become aware of how much you’re complaining
- Antidote it with a 3:1 ratio of gratitude
Awareness is the first key to change. Without awareness, we don’t know what to change. Becoming aware of the ‘complaining soundtrack’ in your head is not necessarily pleasant, but it’s a VITAL first step towards doing something about it.
Then, once you have awareness and you notice that you are running that complaint-script, you can choose whether or not to feed those thoughts – or whether to dive in with a Gratitude Minute (from the week 1 challenge).
You’re not rejecting the complaint, you’re simply letting your mind know that you don’t want to feel the way the complaining thought would make you feel – and that you want to feel the way the grateful thoughts will make you feel, instead.
How about trying it out, right now, and letting me know what happens, over at the forum? Here’s a special discussion thread.
So that is this week’s challenge – learn how to get off the complaining train. The more you play with this, the easier it will get.
And remember you can still join in the fun on Facebook and Twitter:
Make your first post of the day 3 things you want to say ‘thank you’ for – 3 things you want to celebrate in your life. If you’d like to connect with others who are also doing this, you could use the hashtag
#IAmAbundant (no spaces)
Then you can make spotting the abundance in our lives contagious! 🙂
Here is this week’s affirmation:You could perhaps download the image to your phone or computer, to remind you to use the affirmation. Or you could print it and pop it up around your home, as a reminder!
And if you’re into social media, you could share it with your friends via Facebook by click the image (right).
“I can always choose which thoughts to feed. I choose to feed thoughts of gratitude, instead of complaining.”
I’m not supposed to share this with you yet, but just in case you’re curious, here’s the Week 2 video – you won’t want to miss it!
I hope you love it!