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Today I’m sharing the secret to keeping yourself motivated – you won’t want to miss it! Knowing how to keep on going, even when you’re not in the mood, is perhaps the most important part of creating a new habit. It’s the biggest cause of people giving up.
I want to spare you that sense of defeat – and today I’m spilling the beans on the most potent tool you can use to avoid it.
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How did you get on yesterday? Did you get time to sit with the meditation?
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How Do You Keep Going, Even When You’re Not In The Mood?
We all know that feeling – you start off with the best of intentions, but after the first few days, that longed-for habit dwindles and fades.
But that only happens when we don’t know the secet to keeping ourselves motivated.
When you know the secret, the habit falls into place!
What’s the secret to staying motivated?
Well, before I answer this one, I want to answer another question first:
How Long Does It Take To Break – Or Make – A Habit?
Here’s a bonus video from my Soul-Sized Wednesdays series that helps with this one. It takes just a few minutes to watch, but it saves you reading several thousand words and in it, I also share with you a fabulously effective and amazingly easy strategy you can use to make change stick – whatever you are looking to shift in your life. All in about 5 minutes:[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_video link=”http://www.youtube.com/embed/RcaETuM0Vp0″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_column_text]Creating a new habit is about a choice – a decision. Then all you need to do is to nurture the habits and behaviours needed, to support that choice.
Today’s choices create our tomorrow.
Luckily, meditation can quieten our grasshopper mind, helping us to make more conscious choices. So choosing to cultivate the habit of meditating actually helps you to make the choices that make it easier to meditate. Anyone else’s head spinning?!
So how long does it take to break an old habit or start a new one?
My conclusion, after more than a decade as an NLP Trainer?
Breaking an old habit or starting a new one is “done” as soon as you make the decision; as soon as you make a true commitment to yourself that it’s what you’re going to do.
Once you have reached that point, it almost becomes easy, because:
- You have made the decision to do it.
- You know why you’re doing it.
- You can feel the benefit.
- If you’re ‘not in the mood’, all you need to do is to imagine how your day will feel if you don’t do it. This will normally give you the kick up the butt you need to get on and do it!
So you can break a habit in as little time as it takes you to make a decision.
Yes, after the decision willpower and action are still needed. But it’s the strength of that decision – why it is important to you – that will make the difference between success and failure.
And here’s where the secret for staying motivated comes in:
It’s really important to understand why you want to do meditate. Your ‘why’ will keep you motivated, day by day.
So… why are you doing this?
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The Secret To Keeping Yourself Motivated
Before we start any journey – any challenge – any change – it is really important to know why we are doing it.
Knowing our ‘why’ – what is motivating us – helps keep us going.
So, before you start, I invite you to take a few moments to do the following exercise.
Why are you doing this?
Grab yourself a piece of paper and something to write with and allow yourself five or ten minutes just to think and write down your answers to these questions:
- Why do you want to learn to meditate?
- What do you hope that meditating every day for ten minutes is going to do for you?
- How are you going to notice that it is working for you? Which behaviours, which signs, which emotions are you going to be tracking to feel the progress you are making?
- What kinds of barriers can you foresee already that might get in the way of you finding ten minutes a day?
- Before you even start this challenge, what are you going to do about those barriers?
- What time of day do you think might work best for you?
- Do you need to clear anything out of your schedule? Or ask for help? Or delegate something to create that time, ten minutes a day?
- And let the answer to this next question bubble up gently for you – don’t rationalise it. Complete the following sentence: I choose to meditate for ten minutes a day because…
And when you are ready, write that whole sentence up somewhere. Pin it up around your home or around your office.
- If you notice distractions getting in the way of your meditation, you can remind yourself:
I choose to meditate for ten minutes a day because……
You might be surprised how often that allows you to prioritise your meditation over the distractions.
- And finally, decide when and where you are going to meditate each day – this decision makes it easier to remember to meditate!
Once you know your ‘why’ and once you have meditated a few times and can feel the benefits, you’ll want to do it. So all you need to do, from that point onwards, is to remind yourself. And reminding yourself to do something is so much easier than thinking about ‘breaking’ a habit, isn’t it?
It can really help to choose a particular place to meditate, because you will be anchoring your body into the habit of remembering that you are about to sit down; you are about to relax; you are about to meditate; you are taking time for yourself.
And, if you can, choosing the same time each day will condition you to expect to meditate. That makes it so much easier to create the habit.
If you need to get support to clear time, now is the time to do it, before you start the challenge. Tell your family:
“I choose to meditate for ten minutes a day because…”
The word ‘because’ has an amazing power to get people to listen to your request and to help you. When they understand why you want their help and why you want them to support you, it makes it much easier for them to buy in. You might be surprised how much friends, family and co-workers do want to support you. Some of them might even want to join in and learn to meditate with you.
The key is to decide when you are going to meditate, where and what you need to clear out of the way to allow you to do that, and to remember why you’re bothering.
How about filling in your answers to the following questions, as a useful reminder?
I choose to meditate, because…
I will meditate for ten minutes each day:
I will make the following changes / ask for the following help, to create the time I need:
This is how I will remind myself to meditate:
And here’s where you can share your answers – and find out how others are keeping themselves motivated 🙂
What’s your ‘Big Why’?
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I’ll be back tomorrow when we’ll dive in and discover how to magically create the time to meditate, no matter how busy you are, along with the best times and places to meditate – and how to use this to your advantage.
With love, Namaste,