Is it time to stop beating yourself up?
How to press pause on negative self-talk and tame your inner critic - fast.
The stories we tell ourselves in our heads govern what we create - the difference we make in the world. But for most of us this inner radio station is far from encouraging.
In this section, you're going to learn about how mind, body and emotions are linked - and why this is good news for pressing 'pause' on negative self-talk.
You'll discover my most potent tool for retraining your inner critic to be your biggest cheerleader - and much, much more!
Did you know you can press 'pause' on your inner dialogue and choose which thoughts to feed?
Did you know you can turn down the volume on your inner critic, so it doesn't trigger the stress hormone responses in your body that create the painful emotions?
How about if you could train your inner critic to become your biggest cheerleader?
All of that - and more - is waiting for you on this page.
So let's start with pressing 'pause'. I wrote about this recently for Marie Claire magazine - the power of our inner dialogue to frame our experience of life. And it's the core theme of my debut novel: You Take Yourself With You.
Here's my ABC process for pressing 'pause' on negative thinking and starting to retrain your inner critic to become your biggest cheerleader:
How To Tame Your Inner Critic In Under Sixty Seconds
In this episode of the Dare To Dream Bigger podcast, I take you through the invisible cycle that means a single negative thought can last for weeks, instead of minutes, why you can’t ‘think’ your way out of negative thinking – no matter what the ‘experts’ say - plus a practical strategy: how to tame your inner critic and press ‘pause’ on negative self-talk in under sixty seconds.
My Limiting Belief Toolkit course includes a section on the neuroscience of negative self-talk (demystified) and in it I explain how our habitual thoughts are stored in our brains, like autopilot programmes in a computer. You can watch it here.
If you want to retrain yourself to think more positively, then one of the most potent tools I have ever found is gratitude. Learning to spot what you feel grateful for is a powerful way to rewire those neural pathways so that you don't dive into a spiral of negative thinking, each time something goes wrong.
I run full courses on gratitude - online and in the 'real world' - but if you're just starting out, the best tool I can share with you is my book: A Year Full Of Gratitude. In it, you get a year-long gratitude journal, with space to write each day. And you also get a fortnightly exercise or 'gratitude challenge', to help you retrain your brain and your inner critic, in easy-to-apply steps. You also get affirmations and inspirational quotes. Readers describe it as life-changing.
My Top Resources on Self-Talk, Your Inner Critic, Gratitude & More
This deep-dive course deals with negative self-talk, taming your inner critic and ditching your limiting beliefs. It's transformational - and fun.
Ditch perfectionism, tame your inner critic and connect with your inner rockstar confidence.
A Year Full Of Gratitude is a one-year gratitude journal and integrated course, with fortnightly exercises & affirmations.