Do you ever find yourself stuck in situations where people are angry or criticising? Or behaving in ways you would prefer they didn’t? It can be hard to get through this, without shutting down.
So today I’d like to share with you a technique that has helped me – and those I have taught it to – many times over the years.
It’s time to dust off your disco dancing mirror ball.
Here’s a highly effective technique to help you get through those sticky situations, unscathed:
- Remember those disco dancing mirror balls – all shiny and reflecting light in every direction? Imagine you are standing inside one. Obviously it’s a virtual one, or you’d find it pretty hard to get out of the front door, or into your car…
This one is slightly different to those from the seventies – it has mirrors on the inside, as well as the outside.
- As you go through your day, you might like to set the following intention:
Only that which is true and kind or is meant for my growth can pass through the mirrors to reach me. Everything else is reflected back to the sender.
- Only that which is true and kind can leave this mirror ball. Everything else is reflected back at me.
Only those messages and behaviours which are really meant for you can get through. And you are setting the intention to behave with compassion, throughout your day.
It’s surprising how effectively your unconscious mind will react to this intention. It quickly gets the hang of the game, reminding you to check whether an unkind remark was really meant for you, before you react. It allows you to clearly see the ways we tend to retaliate, on auto-pilot, giving you back your freedom of choice.
I am often surprised by how safe and protected I feel, within that virtual mirror ball. It can set us free to act more authentically, rather than behaving the way we think the other person wants us to behave. And that is life-changing.
Not bad for such a simple technique?
Had a chance to play with it? How did you get on? What did you notice?
Please feel free to share, via the comments box!
Wishing you sunshine and laughter,